Actors Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively have been married for six years, and they share two children together: James, 3, and Ines, 20 months. The Hollywood power couple makes their glamorous lives look effortless, but Lively has spoken out before about how her life is not as “perfect” as it may look.
With two young children and two busy acting careers, it’s natural to wonder how they balance it all. In order to keep their many balls in the air, so to speak, the couple abides by a simple rule.
“We don’t allow our film schedules to overlap,” Reynolds told People. “We are very conscious of being very present as parents. I come from a big family and so does Blake, and we want to create a very warm and happy environment for our children.”
Lively has also previously addressed the couple’s policy, noting that it means they sometimes have to make professional sacrifices for the sake of their family.
“We’ve each given up stuff we loved in order to not work at the same time,” she told Glamour in 2017. “I’m fortunate to be in a place now where I get to find the material — a book or script — early and develop it. So I know ahead of time that I’m going to be working on this job at this time. And we can plan around it.”
While their strategy may not be realistic or practical for most couples, it speaks to their commitment to each other that they’re both willing to compromise in pursuit of a shared goal.
Here’s the happy couple on the red carpet for the New York City premiere of Reynolds’ new film, “Deadpool”:
In her caption, Lively notes that she’s seen her husband’s new flick three times in the past week. We’re sure Reynolds will return the favor when Lively’s upcoming film, “A Simple Favor,” premieres.
Years ago, in the midst of a bout of depression, I bought myself a Kate Spade day planner. The bright fuschia floral-covered book was a reminder — there are better days ahead. Hang on.
For me, surviving the darkness of depression involves focusing on the good and beautiful in my life, the yet-to-be, and the hope and belief that things will get better. Spade’s style — fun, feminine and full of joy — seemed the antidote to a bad day, even if it couldn’t erase my depression.
Because the Kate Spade brand is so colorful and cheery, many people were shocked to learn that the iconic designer was found dead from apparent suicide. After all, how could a woman who “has it all” — fame, fortune, family — take her own life?
Well, as a middle-aged woman who also appears to “have it all” (maybe not quite on the scale of Spade, but still), I’m here to tell you that when you suffer from depression, there’s no house big enough, no marriage committed enough, no bank account large enough, no family stable enough, no work motivating enough — and no one pill or treatment strong enough to insulate you from fears of failure and loss or from the “imposter syndrome” that creeps in when depression takes hold.
“It’s OK to not be OK.”
I heard that this morning on the radio in relation to Spade’s death. I believe it, but there’s a bitter truth we ignore: It is less OK for some people to not be OK. Often, the very people who need to know it’s acceptable for them to be struggling are the ones who are shamed, mocked or simply ignored for their struggle: women who are successful, women who are mothers, women who are well past the age of ingénue and whose mental health issues are not supposed to impact their lives.
Spade — successful entrepreneur, wife and mother — was one of those “have it all” women we’re supposed to envy, not worry about or watch over. And yet, she was at an age when she was most at risk. A study by the Centers for Disease Control examined the rates of suicide among men and women in 1999 and 2014 and found that women between ages 45 and 64 had the highest suicide rate among women in both years.
In a world where being a “have it all” woman is considered a sign of ultimate success, there are many women like Spade — ambitious, put together, organized, passionate about their careers and family — who also suffer from depression.
I know this firsthand because I am one of them.
It’s OK to not be OK — it’s the kind of phrase a nurturing older woman would say to anyone but herself. Did Spade feel like I do sometimes: that it’s not OK for me to admit I can’t always cope with everything life throws at me? That there are times when I desperately need to take care of myself and be heard? That some days I just can’t take care of everyone else because I’m barely hanging on to my own mental health?
In the years since I bought that cheery Kate Spade planner, I watched her iconic color palette pop up everywhere from department stores to my optometrist’s office and I discovered I shared a few things with the woman behind the style. Like the late designer, I was born in Missouri in the 1960s and majored in journalism in college. Also like her, I’ve been married for over two decades and had my first child at 42.
A 2002 interview she did with the Palm Beach Post highlighted some other similarities between us: We both had a dog named Henry (mine, a lab/sheltie mix; Spade’s, a Maltese), we both loved comfortable pajamas, peonies and cinnamon Pop-Tarts. Silly little details of everyday life, made all the more poignant because of her death.
We may never know the details of Spade’s life that lead to her death at age 55, but it isn’t hard to imagine that the same demons that have pursued me since my teens might have plagued her as well. Having grown up with a mother who suffered from undiagnosed mental illness, I’ve learned to be aware of my own bouts of depression and anxiety and to use all the resources available to me to combat it.
Last year, I asked my doctor for something to help me during times when I can’t manage just by using logic, distraction or exercise. And yet, “It’s OK to not be OK,” is not a phrase I’m comfortable using for myself. How can I be? I am a woman who has it all: a devoted husband, two adorable sons, a beautiful house in the suburbs, an education, disposable income and a freelance writing career that allows me to work from home as little or as much as I want. How can I ever not be OK? How dare I not be OK when so many others have so much less?
This is the thought process of a depressed woman whose very entitlements, combined with her age, make her — and her depression — invisible to others. I am a middle-aged wife and mom with all the accoutrements of suburban success, but depression keeps me from truly having it all because I do not have the ability to quiet my mind and find the calm I need.
How does a woman who “has it all” admit — to herself as well as others — that she still doesn’t have what she needs to be at peace? I have an abundance of riches, and still I want more. Depression feels like a shameful indulgence.
Letting go of what I cannot control has always been a problem, one that Spade seems to have shared. In an interview for the BUILD series, she spoke of worrying too much, and wishing she could worry less. I understand that sentiment all too well — especially at 2 a.m. when my brain won’t stop racing. What-if scenarios fill my thoughts in the hours when I am supposed to rest but can only worry.
I worry that I’m not doing enough for my family, my community or the world. I come up with reasons that I’m not a good enough mother, wife or writer. I fixate on the fear that time is slipping away and I need to do more for the people I love and be a better person, somehow. Be happy. Why can’t I just be happy? I have it all.
I have spent my adult life fending off depression, only to discover there is no permanent way to kill off that particular demon. There is no way to “fix” my brain even though I logically know there is nothing at all wrong with my life. Unfortunately, depression isn’t logical.
Instead, I do my best to keep my head above water with all of the resources I have available and ride the waves of sadness, loneliness and fear, paddling fiercely for a distant shore where life will even out again and I can keep my depression at bay for awhile.
As I hear the chatter and speculation about Spade in the coming days, I will try to focus on all of the good in my life right now and the good things I hope are yet to come. Most of all, I will remember that having it all doesn’t mean being above it all — especially the insidiousness of depression.
Rides with Uber and Lyft are convenient, but they can also be awkward. So if the driver has some good tunes with which to fill in the awkward silence, all the better.
Well, one driver has taken it to another level. Because rather than just play his music, he’s created a variety of different Spotify playlists to try and accommodate his passengers.
A word of caution: The driver uses a naughty word to describe one of his playlists, and I’m not just talking about the word “hipster.”
“So I just started driving for uber and Lyft and I’ve been getting a lot more compliments on my music since generalizing my passengers by 1 of these 11 playlists,” Twitter user @TEEJUS_ wrote on Feb. 24.
So I just started driving for uber and Lyft and I’ve been getting a lot more compliments on my music since generalizing my passengers by 1 of these 11 playlists pic.twitter.com/WhX1O5wZ4b
The driver, who goes by TJ on his Spotify account, actually answered a few before he decided he could actually make money with his music preference carnival act. But, if you’re curious as to which category you would have fit in, we’ve decided to help break it down for you:
Not going to lie, I had to look up what the heck “heady bros” are on Urban dictionary. Apparently, a heady bro is “a bro who is down for most anything entertaining, especially recreational drugs.”
And apparently, that means listening to songs like “Purple Haze” by Jimi Hendrix, “Drain You” by Nirvana, “Mind Mischief” by Tame Impala and “Ode To Viceroy” by Mac DeMarco. No, I don’t know what most of those things are either.
White Dudes Who Look Like They Like Rap:
According to TJ, you like Drake, Childish Gambino, Frank Ocean, Future, Kanye West, Chance the Rapper, Kendrick Lamar and Steve Lacy.
This playlist has a nice mix of oldies like Fleetwood Mac and Hall & Oates sprinkled in with some more modern acts like Lorde and Sia.
Apparently, to TJ, 30 is the cutoff for when people become ancient relics. This playlist is full of oldies, with songs by Rick Springfield, the Beach Boys, Fleetwood Mac and Earth, Wind and Fire. Side note: Apparently, I am ancient, because this is totally my jam.
If you grew up in the ’90s, there’s pretty much no way you didn’t know what green slime was. Not only was it the best part of Nickelodeon’s game show “Double Dare,” but the network even ‘slimed’ celebrities on its various live shows, and has continued to do so over the past few decades.
If you were like most kids, you likely dreamed of getting slimed yourself. While that probably still won’t happen, the network is offering up the next best thing — and you can get it at Walmart.
Just in time for summer, you will now find Nickelodeon Slime Sauce on store shelves. Say what?!
While it may look like the real thing, you probably don’t want to pour this one all over yourself (I mean, you could if you wanted to…), but it’s actually just ketchup that looks like green slime! That’s right, not only can you add some ’90s flare to you barbecues this summer, but now your kids can get in on the green slime fun, too.
Perhaps the best part? This stuff is only $2.28 for a 20-ounce bottle. Walmart suggests not only using the ketchup on your favorite foods this summer, but keeping it around for theme parties, color-coordinated birthdays and even Halloween.
Of all the ’90s things making a comeback — shout out to Tamagotichis and “Will and Grace!”— I have to admit, I did not see this one coming. It’s not a far stretch from something else ’90s kids grew up with though, so we shouldn’t be too surprised.
If you lived through that decade, you likely also remember when Heinz offered up purple, pink, orange, teal and blue ketchup in 2000. Kids ate it up, with more than 25 million bottles being sold before it was discontinued in 2006, when consumers eventually lost interest.
There’s no saying if the new Nickelodeon Slime Sauce will stick around longer than “funky purple” Heinz, but now that ’90s kids are the ones doing the shopping, covering french fries in slime might just be at the top of the grocery list.
Meghan Markle’s life may seem like a fairy tale, but she is not the only one living in Kensington Palace who came from more humble beginnings. Her rescue dog, Guy, a beagle, has also moved to the United Kingdom.
A friend kindly alerted me to a very sweet moment we missed yesterday – the Queen travelling with Meghan’s beagle guy spotted by the talented Lainey Gossip https://madaboutmeghan.blogspot.con/2018/05/live-blog-day-before-wedding.html pic.twitter.com/zpQbtg8YeQ
We don’t know for certain whether Guy rode with the Queen of England, or whether he stayed back at the couple’s home in London. However, if Markle is like other dog lovers, she probably considers her beagle to be a part of her family who joins important occasions.
Guy’s rags-to-riches story is an amazing one. In 2015, he was reportedly left at a Kentucky kill-shelter and stayed there before being given a second chance by A Dog’s Dream Rescue, a Canadian-based rescue organization for beagles, Labs and coonhounds.
Markle reportedly came across a photo of the beagle on Petfinder. The then-actress met and decided to rescue the dog at an adoption event in Toronto, the city where she lived while filming her TV show “Suits.” Before the adoption, they took a trial walk together. It must have been love at first sight!
Here is a photo of Guy from A Dog’s Dream Rescue, which Markle might have seen online before adopting him:
“It’s just wonderful the exposure [Markle] created” for the charity, said Dolores Doherty, the founder of A Dog’s Dream Rescue, in an interview with People. “She could’ve bought a dog, but she chose to adopt.”
However, unlike Guy, Bogart did not make the trip to the UK and is instead living with friends in Canada. In the couple’s first interview with the BBC following their engagement, the new Duchess of Sussex shared that she made the hard decision to leave him behind because Bogart was too old to travel abroad and make the transition to a new home. Her beloved pup is being cared for by “very close friends.”
While Guy’s canine sibling may have stayed behind in Canada, he will hardly be the only royal dog roaming around the grounds of Kensington Palace. The royal couple lives next door to Prince William and Kate Middleton, and their family has an English cocker spaniel named Lupo.
Of course, the Queen is famous for her beloved corgis. In the couple’s engagement interview, it became clear Markle has a special touch when it comes to dogs! Prince Harry jokingly complained that the Queen’s dogs have always barked at him, but when she first met the Queen, the corgis instantly loved Markle and didn’t bark.
With so many dog-lovers in the royal family, it seems that Guy the beagle will be living a very charmed life in his new role as a royal pet!
Gingers unite! There’s a digital revolution and we’re finally on the bandwagon with the rest of the world.
The latest emoji update gives long overdue recognition to the fiery-haired population who were previously unable to properly express themselves via text and social media. On June 5, the newest version of the Unicode Standard was released to the public. Among the more than 150 new additions to the emoji universe is a collection of redheads!
And, there’s a wide variety of skin tones to choose from!
Apparently, the ginger mobilization efforts worked and Unicode announced the carrot-top emojis pending arrival back in August 2017. Now, the long-awaited figures are here. Users may find it takes a little time before the Unicode updates on their devices. But, just be patient. You’ll be able to fire off the red-haired emojis soon enough.
Other Emoji Additions
Redheads aren’t the only newcomers to the emoji lineup. Say hello to other new members of the emoji family: